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The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen

The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen



In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx …

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  1. king nick

    Ha! Speak for yourself. Lol my self esteem was crushed all the way threw high school. Not until 11th grade did I actually start to develop some self worth. However it was only because I lost weight and got a GF

  2. Mathew Wienbar

    No to downplay the importance of self compassion, but she is mischaracterizing self esteem in this video. Self esteem is not a belief that you're better than others, it is belief that you are competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and that you are worthy of happiness. I think the self esteem movement that Dr. Nathaniel Branden started back in the day actually encompasses everything she's talking about here. Arrogance is a sign of low self esteem – her references to narcissism and self esteem are off base, people with high self esteem are happy being themselves and don't need to derive their happiness from feeling superior to others.

  3. #1Lazer

    I am a very critical person, and I can say from experience- it not only steals my motivation, but the motivation of those who spend a lot of time with me. Very dangerous. Not proud of it, but I am recognizing a trend.
    Also mammals? Show me some proof that I am part reptile? As I'd have to be in order to "also be" something else.? Wait, I'm being critical… okay, I am very beautiful, some say cold blooded, I may have a forked tongue at times… wait, people again having a sense of self responsibility? Okay, I hope everyone watching this believes that, because we need it badly as a society!

  4. beachhum

    Short summary – Self-compassion: relating to self kindly; as we are. 1)Self-kindness (encourage, patience, empathize); 2) Humanity (how am I the same as others, we are all imperfect); 3) mindfulness (accept/validate the present & feelings). Better mental health. Benefits of self-esteem without pitfalls.
    self-esteem: am I good person or bad person? Feelings of self-worth. High self-esteem in USA means above average (puff up and put others down; comparison). Lots of bullying/prejudice. Women told image is important.
    Self-criticism undermines motivation. Triggers Threat system (flight or fight); you become the attacker and the attacked; cause depression.
    Feel safe by Mammal system – warm, gentle touch, soft voice (feel safe and comforted). "What can I do to support you?"

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